Monday, June 18, 2012

Things I've Learned Since Losing My Parents

*No matter your age, you will feel like an orphan when both of your parents are gone.

*Life goes on and the world keeps spinning when you lose a loved one, even though there are many           times you wish they wouldn't.

*The old phrases your parents said, will now bring a smile to your face when you hear them escape your own lips.

*Love isn't found in material things, it is found within and between people.

*When you are dying, you won't think about your job, your car, how clean your house was or how much   money you made in your lifetime. You will think of the people who touched your life and will hope that you touched people's lives as well.

*When you lose your mother, it feels as though a part of your very childhood has been lost.

*God is everywhere, you just have to open your eyes to see what He is showing you.

*When you lose your parents, you develop a need to keep their memory alive.

*You find joy (even if tears get mixed in) when someone mentions your lost loved one.

*You will reach for the phone or think "I can't wait to tell Mother/Daddy about that", and then be  shocked back into reality at the remembrance that they are gone.

*Many who have not yet lost a parent, will seem uncomfortable around you. Whether this is real or perceived on your part, remind yourself to be happy for them that they don't understand your loss. And be there for them down the road when they do understand it.

*You will always wish you'd asked your parents more questions about when they were young.

*You can never say "I love you" too many times.

*There are angels who walk among us every day.

*There is no time limit on grief.

*Grief is a process, a journey that is different for everyone.

*When you become a mother, you will play that role for the rest of your life.

*The truly great people in life rarely see themselves that way.

*Dying is a fascinating process…except for the end result.

*When I listen closely, I can hear my mom giving me advice about whatever is troubling me.

*A simple grocery list in my mom’s handwriting can bring me to tears.

*The little everyday things in life are the ones you will remember and treasure the most.

*Just as I didn’t know as much at 16 as I do now, I don’t know as much now as I will at 80.

*No matter how long you have your parents in your life, it is never long enough.

*Perspective makes all the difference..

*Your parents live on in you when they are gone.

*My mom was right when she said that the older you get, the faster the years seem to go.

*Hindsight is 20/20, but Godsight has a clarity that human eyes are not capable of seeing.

*At the end of your life, it’s people, not things, that matter.

*God does work in mysterious ways.

*It's ok to laugh in the midst of grieving.

*Everything changes when you lose your mother.

*There are worse things than experiencing grief yourself. Watching your parent grieve and watching  your child grieve are two of them.

*The price one pays for having wonderfully loving parents is tremendous grief when they are gone. But it is well worth the cost.

*The idea of my own death is much less frightening, now that I know Mother and Daddy will be waiting to greet me at Heaven’s gate.

*A spoonful of maple nut ice cream will forever bring back memories of my mom.

*Never underestimate what a difference your simple act of kindness can make in someone's life.

*My parents weren't perfect, but they were the perfect parents for me.

*I will forever miss Mother and Daddy, until I see them again. And I am confident that I will see them again.

*I need to keep writing my feelings and my memories. It's cheaper than a therapist.

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